Since Steve and I each have quite a few relatives in Canada and the US, we had to figure out a way to introduce one another to them and let them know about our upcoming nuptials. We had already planned to have a relatively small wedding with just a few close friends and relatives. So we decided to write and post out a round robin letter with our Christmas cards.
It was fun to write. We looked back on the past year together and wrote about the highlights, starting with ringing in 2009 from our holiday cottage on a wolf sanctuary in Shropshire, moving into our home, having our first visitors and feasts, our summer holidays and finishing with our wedding plans, including a link to this blog.
There were a few reasons for doing this. The wedding is going to be small. But, potentially, the number of people we could invite runs into well over a hundred. We read sonewhere that simply to tell people of an impending wedding is tantamount to inviting them. We didn’t want to disappoint, so a round robin was an ideal way of letting people know about our plans without formally inviting them to be a part of them.
Another reason was simply to introduce each other to each other’s extended families. They live across continents, so it’s not always that easy to invite all the relatives around for coffee!
And a further reason was to let people know of our plans to visit various parts of North America over the next couple of years to meet everyone.
Writing the round robin was, in some ways, remarkably easy. We’d had a great year, full of memorable occasions. In other ways, it was pretty tricky. What do you leave out? What do you put in? How do you tell so many different people what they need to know and how do you work out the difference between “need to know” and “maybe vaguely interesting”.
The point is: actually, we wrote it for ourselves. This is what we wanted to say. And, if it was what we wanted to say, it was what we wanted people – anyone and everyone – to hear.