For both Steve and I, marriage represents the confluence of two streams and also a rock: solid ground from which to step out – lovingly – into the unknown of the ever flowing future. Not only do we step forward together on shared ventures, but each of us envisions our marriage as a stable base from which we can individually grow into our unique Selves.
I had an immense day on Saturday in which our home and my studio were on the Moretonhampstead Secret Studios Trail. I felt Steve’s emotional and physical support in every way in the weeks that I prepared for this event: my début as an artist. Although I have been completely comfortable identifying myself as an artist for a number of years, until now, I haven’t had a solid place to base myself as an artist.
Besides welcoming guests into my newly re-Vamped studio, a very special part of the day was taking small groups of people to see our wedding quilt Cleaved. I showed them the slate which I’d photographed together with the red rose petals sent to me from Steve and told the story of our meeting and long distance courtship. Then I showed our wedding invitation with the photograph on it.
And then the quilt itself. The front with the appliquéd grey slate and red rose petals, and water ripples, river washed stones and two feathers quilted onto the white silk. I also revealed the back of the quilt made from fabric I’d painted, stamped and then screenprinted with words from our written and emailed love letters.
I finished by reading out loud the quote from Rainer Maria Rilke that is screenprinted onto the front of our quilt:
“Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky”. – Rainer Maria Rilke
It was a very special part of a wonderful day to share and reflect on one of the hopes and intentions for our marriage, and to realise that it is indeed manifesting itself as a very solid place to stand and to venture forth from.