Steve gave me this beautiful red rose for St. Valentine’s Day. I love the spiral in the centre which radiates outwards. This reminds me of some words by John O’Donohue in his book Anam Cara.
“A person should always offer a prayer of graciousness for the love that has awakened in them. When you feel love for your beloved and his or her for you, now and again you should offer the warmth of your love as a blessing for those who are damaged and unloved. Send that love out into the world to people who are desperate; to those who are starving; to those who are trapped in prison; in hospitals and all the terrrains of bleak and tormented lives. When you send that love out from the bountifulness of your own love, it reaches other people. This love is the deepest power of prayer.”
Since Steve and I met, along with the family and friends who belong in our circle and who delight in our togetherness, we are each aware of jealous friends or bitter former partners who cannot share in our happiness together.
I’ve been troubled by the loss of a dear friend that I have had for over 20 years, who just isn’t able to have me in his life now that I am married and deeply committed to Steve. I can understand his feelings and I also feel the loss of our friendship. I can recall times in my life when my jealousy has kept me from truly embracing a friend’s new found love and this has caused me to withdraw my friendship and good feelings. Underneath is all, there can be unpleasant feelings of hurt, rejection and envy. It’s so much easier to become angry at the other person, or cut them from my life than to face these feelings.
So I offer each of these people whom I know a blessing and a hope that they will find their way to the warmth of love.