One of my hopes for our marriage (and one that is already being fulfilled) is for it to be a solid place of stabiity for both Steve and I. When we first met and were living 200 miles apart, neither of us was sure where we would end up, but we knew that it would be together. We were each lightly perched, Steve in Birmingham and I in Devon. Steve said something very early on about holding on to one another and letting our world take shape around us, that home is here in the space where our hearts meet. One of my visions for our marriage is it being a place from which we can each go out to meet the world from and return to for replenishment and grounding.
Centering is about making a place for ourselves in the world where we can both feel safe and supported. More than the simple task of “homemaking,” it involves seeing our environment with new eyes, letting it calm the mind and soothe the soul. In this peaceful context it is only natural to see past the surfaces – past the fatigue and trials of the day to the deep and caring person we’ve married. It becomes easier to maintain our equilibrium and to be caring even in the middle of crisis. In the process we will also learn how best to soothe one another – in fact, to become sanctuaries for each other, no matter where we are. (Excerpted from Marriage from the Heart)
While I was working on my Earth table runner for our wedding feast, I came across this lovely blessing: ‘Deep peace of the quiet earth to you.’ Details of the making can be found here.
‘How surely gravity’s law, strong as an ocean’s current,
takes hold of even the strongest thing
and pulls it towards the heart of the world.’
– Rainer Maria Rilke